Youtube: The Thread

[ScottotD]

[Kete]

What!? Ben Folds Five is back together?  Hopefully Ben wash off the stink from whatever singing contest show he was on and create something great again.

[RVR II]

[goflyblind]

fraggles!

[Thrifty]

Comedian poses as jaded young former Obama supporter, trolls Fox News on the air.

[Space version 2.0]

Wait, so kids 18-24 living at home is a bad thing? I can understand more on the 24 side, but if an 18-20 year old isn't living at home I assume some bad shit has gone down.

[k1]

Friggin YouTube... Been trying to upload a 4 minute video for the past 5 and a half hours and the upload keeps freezing up.

[Thrifty]

Wait, so kids 18-24 living at home is a bad thing? I can understand more on the 24 side, but if an 18-20 year old isn't living at home I assume some bad shit has gone down.

There's a stigma against it that, quite frankly, I find unfair.  On the one hand, you're not supposed to live with mom and dad after age 18.  As you get older, the stigma starts to get a little more justified, but quite frankly I find it silly to force them out the door that young.  Independent living is expensive, and I'm not so sure that most 18 year olds have the earning potential to do it without living in total squalor.  They say you shouldn't buy things you can't afford... well if you can't afford to rent an apartment, don't rent an apartment.

[k1]

Friggin YouTube... Been trying to upload a 4 minute video for the past 5 and a half hours and the upload keeps freezing up.

Current upload... 12%, 3492 minutes remaining... wtf. It's not even a huge file. It's a 720p video that is 379 MB

[Variety of Cells]

Comedian poses as jaded young former Obama supporter, trolls Fox News on the air.

In my opinion he blew a pretty awesome opportunity.

Wait, so kids 18-24 living at home is a bad thing? I can understand more on the 24 side, but if an 18-20 year old isn't living at home I assume some bad shit has gone down.

There's a stigma against it that, quite frankly, I find unfair.  On the one hand, you're not supposed to live with mom and dad after age 18.  As you get older, the stigma starts to get a little more justified, but quite frankly I find it silly to force them out the door that young.  Independent living is expensive, and I'm not so sure that most 18 year olds have the earning potential to do it without living in total squalor.  They say you shouldn't buy things you can't afford... well if you can't afford to rent an apartment, don't rent an apartment.

However in many cultures it is not unusual to live with your parents and even your extended family your whole life. Sure makes life a lot easier, being close to people who care about you and are willing to help you raise your children as you help take care of them as they get old. And yet there's such a strong stigma here to move away.

But that's mostly me feeling bad about being so far away from my family. Living in the same house would be a little uncomfortable, but I'd love to have them next door.

[MSTJedi]

Wait, so kids 18-24 living at home is a bad thing? I can understand more on the 24 side, but if an 18-20 year old isn't living at home I assume some bad shit has gone down.

There's a stigma against it that, quite frankly, I find unfair.  On the one hand, you're not supposed to live with mom and dad after age 18.  As you get older, the stigma starts to get a little more justified, but quite frankly I find it silly to force them out the door that young.  Independent living is expensive, and I'm not so sure that most 18 year olds have the earning potential to do it without living in total squalor.  They say you shouldn't buy things you can't afford... well if you can't afford to rent an apartment, don't rent an apartment.

I've gotta say that most of the time that I lived on my own between high school and marriage I was unprepared and ended up with quite a bit of debt just to pay my bills. While I make jokes about kicking my kids out as soon as they graduate, I'd never push them out before they were ready and would advise them not to move out on their own unless they could truly support themselves. That said, after they graduate high school, I fully expect them to work (in order to save up to be on their own) or be in higher education (in order to find a real career) while still under my roof. No (completely) free rides, dammit.

[Kete]

I lived at home until I got married.  When I got married we were able to buy a house right away.

[Thrifty]

That said, after they graduate high school, I fully expect them to work (in order to save up to be on their own) or be in higher education (in order to find a real career) while still under my roof. No (completely) free rides, dammit.

Yeah.  While I find the stigma of living with your parents after the age of 18 to be unfair, I agree that it is completely fair that the parents and the children have to realize that the dynamic has changed.  The child must realize he or she is now an adult, and needs to make a life plan. 

I've known a few folks who were in their upper 20s or early 30s who were secure enough financially to move out, but would actually be pressured by the parents not to do so.  It's a weird dynamic to think about, the inverse of the "get out of my house, you're an adult" that you might expect.

[K2]

I've known a few folks who were in their upper 20s or early 30s who were secure enough financially to move out, but would actually be pressured by the parents not to do so.  It's a weird dynamic to think about, the inverse of the "get out of my house, you're an adult" that you might expect.

Yeh my girlfriend has parents (or at least a mother) like that. As soon as she starting spending time at my house her mom would make her feel guilty for not spending more time at home and the phrase "I don't know what I'm going to do when you move out, especially if you aren't nearby" has become a very effective manipulation tool for her mom. As a result if we want to get a place together, it has to be within a 15 mile radius of her mom. I had to pass up on an amazing job opportunity in Portland, ME for many reasons but the biggest was that my girlfriend refused to move there with me. It's tough to decide which type of parenting is more damaging; the ones who give kids the boot at 18-19 or the ones who guilt their kids into never leaving.

[MSTJedi]

It's a personality that's passed down in certain families. Some children rebel from the oppressive dependence and others pass it right on to their children. I've seen it happen with my son's mother (we're not married). She hated their obsessive need to control her and keep tabs on her while we were dating, but I see her doing the same thing with our son (he's 11 now).