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Offline LucasM

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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7665 on: May 23, 2013, 01:17:24 AM »
I think they are lonely.

Yes, very much so.  Because think of the abusive behavior people who behave in such a way were subjected to by their parents the entire time they were growing up in order for them to think that their - to us - unusual behavior is 'normal'.  People generally behave the way they were treated... if they are extremely socially awkward and don't have a clue what acceptable behavior is, it is because their parents had no clue what was acceptable (or did 'unacceptable' things to them).

People aren't generally what many would consider inappropriate assholes by choice.  They learned the best they could how to behave from people who likely at best treated them as a burden, but more often as an emotional punching bag.  And, unfortunately, every time someone is extreme in their response to a person who grew up that way, that person is actually reinforced that that is - indeed - the way people act toward each other.  And they become further and further withdrawn and confused (or more and more inappropriate or angry).

So yes: lonely.  Trying desperately to connect (because they likely never really have connected with anyone since birth), but having no social skills with which to do so.  The reaching out with, "we're going to be friends," is the awkward attempt by someone without social skills to try to connect with others.  To most of us (myself included, had I received one of those PMs) that feels kinda' creepy and the tendency is to avoid the person.  For someone to make contacts like that, though, says to me is that one or both of their parents were grossly invasive.

Sad, really.

Edit: Does this mean I think these people should be coddled or that I want to associate with them?  No (I'm no longer being paid to do treatment, now I can choose what I share and with whom).  It means that responses that are basically neutral in tone, but explaining what isn't acceptable are most likely to help and get the desired results.  When a couple people here tried this, and the person escalated things further, banning seemed to me the appropriate response as it was clear the person was too far gone to comprehend what was being said and why [if anyone cared what my personal opinion was on the specific events of the last 12 hours or so... likely not, I'd gather].

Likely more than enough fuckin' psychology for now.  If I wasn't so far past capacity I wouldn't have written anything to begin with on this [and, likely, many would've been happier for the lack of it being here because they didn't sign up for a Developmental Psych course].  So: enough.
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7666 on: May 23, 2013, 06:06:28 AM »
Was it the picture of the cat that triggered the banning or something after that which I'm missing?

She is shrill and a harridan, but she's also pretty funny and gutsy.  I suspect she had to be all those thing in the 80s to get anyywhere in the BBC.
She always struck me as emblematic of how the old try but don't quite get the younger people they're trying to attract, not quite Homer rapping as Mr. Plough but a bit like that. It's like the BBC had her producing Def II and the like and you watched it because it was about as close as they were going to get to relevance.
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7667 on: May 23, 2013, 06:37:14 AM »
Was it the picture of the cat that triggered the banning or something after that which I'm missing?

I didn't see the picture - after I warned him, he posted a dick comment, which I deleted.
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7668 on: May 23, 2013, 08:39:23 AM »
Was it the picture of the cat that triggered the banning or something after that which I'm missing?

I didn't see the picture - after I warned him, he posted a dick comment, which I deleted.

He did make a lot of those "threat" type posts.  Comedic threats fail pretty badly in text, if that was what he was going for.  Guess he'll never be a stand up comic, if one type of joke bombs no matter how you work it, you've got to switch to another type.


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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7669 on: May 23, 2013, 12:31:04 PM »
I just read the most awesome article of the trilogy of films: Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, and Before Midnight

http://www.npr.org/blogs/monkeysee/2013/05/23/186226960/before-midnight-jesse-and-celine-are-older-now-and-so-are-we
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7671 on: May 23, 2013, 12:40:20 PM »
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7672 on: May 23, 2013, 12:50:16 PM »
No, fantastic films with Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy and, having looked up Before Midnight, god does she look great in it. :)

Aww I didn't even know that was coming out, that really makes me happy to hear. :)


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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7673 on: May 23, 2013, 05:32:19 PM »
By the way, I super enjoyed banning Routing Protocols.

He sent me the oddest personal message right after I captioned that thin ice picture, saying "We will be friends, you and I."

Alas... :-\
He did the same to me, and I don't think we even interacted.

I am pretty sure he was that MUD CRICKET idiot, so if you find yourselves getting similar PMs, let me know please.
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7674 on: May 23, 2013, 10:48:10 PM »
So, it seems that the Boy Scouts of America have voted to allow openly gay youth to be scouts (as of January 2014). Openly gay leaders are still SOL, I believe, but it's progress. Which was directly followed by many protests of all the Bible thumpers and Mormons (of which there are . . .  were a ridiculous amount of in the BSA) declaring they were quitting. To which my wife, a cub scout pack leader, replied, "Good riddance." I was fully expecting them to cave to the fundies, really.



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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7675 on: May 23, 2013, 11:54:46 PM »
I think that last would fit better in either the "We'reRightAndYou'reAFuckingHatingHaterRacist political thread" or the "Anti-Religious thread."  Just sayin'.

I put it here because the main story is not about politics or religion, it's about the BSA. It's not really weird, so it doesn't belong in that thread, either. That said, my (and my wife's) opinion could fall in either of those threads you mentioned, I suppose. We don't really have any tolerance for the intolerant. I have no problem with anyone believing whatever they want, but I don't think that anyone's beliefs should interfere with anyone else being who they are. If my kid happened to be homosexual, I wouldn't want them to be barred from participating in scouts because of it.


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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7676 on: May 24, 2013, 01:25:24 AM »
"We'reRightAndYou'reAFuckingHatingHaterRacist political thread"

Wow. That's a pretty angry statement using some pretty strong words.

Did you have a bad experience in the politics thread? Do you even post in that thread?
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7677 on: May 24, 2013, 02:09:01 AM »
I'm now wondering if down the road I'll have to explain the action of blocking picture posts from a certain friend of mine on Facebook.  I know I'm going to miss something good, because she occasionally posts awesome geeky stuff, and I get the feeling that she's going to ask me "Why didn't you react to that Batman thing (or whatever) I posted?  I figured you'd love that."  And I'm going to have to tell her "Well, it all goes back to the day I logged on during my lunch break at work and noticed the Tumblr pic you shared with the world of the hardbodied guy with the giant erect cock."

Its not my place to tell her what she can and can't post or share or like, but it is my right to try and avoid accidental penis in my internet experience whenever possible.
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7678 on: May 24, 2013, 02:23:18 AM »
I'm now wondering if down the road I'll have to explain the action of blocking picture posts from a certain friend of mine on Facebook.  I know I'm going to miss something good, because she occasionally posts awesome geeky stuff, and I get the feeling that she's going to ask me "Why didn't you react to that Batman thing (or whatever) I posted?  I figured you'd love that."  And I'm going to have to tell her "Well, it all goes back to the day I logged on during my lunch break at work and noticed the Tumblr pic you shared with the world of the hardbodied guy with the giant erect cock."

Its not my place to tell her what she can and can't post or share or like, but it is my right to try and avoid accidental penis in my internet experience whenever possible.

So... deliberate penis is a different matter, eh? :)
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Re: Completely Random Thoughts
« Reply #7679 on: May 24, 2013, 02:36:19 AM »
I'm now wondering if down the road I'll have to explain the action of blocking picture posts from a certain friend of mine on Facebook.  I know I'm going to miss something good, because she occasionally posts awesome geeky stuff, and I get the feeling that she's going to ask me "Why didn't you react to that Batman thing (or whatever) I posted?  I figured you'd love that."  And I'm going to have to tell her "Well, it all goes back to the day I logged on during my lunch break at work and noticed the Tumblr pic you shared with the world of the hardbodied guy with the giant erect cock."

Its not my place to tell her what she can and can't post or share or like, but it is my right to try and avoid accidental penis in my internet experience whenever possible.

So... deliberate penis is a different matter, eh? :)

There are certain activities that you know penis is a component of.  If I decide to watch some porn, unless I'm looking for specificly penis-less porn I know that some penis is likely to be involved, and I can prepare myself accordingly.

I'm saying penis too much today.

PS.  Deliberate Penis is my DaVinci's Notebook cover band.
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