Can't imagine what going through that is like, LC. I'm glad you were able to find a little happiness last week, though. But I do know all about people wanting you to be something you aren't and can't be. I haven't been on here lately because I've been back and forth emotionally and just couldn't find the emotional energy to spend on seeking or giving advice. For the most part, I'm much happier on my own than I was married. In fact, the only time I get depressed lately is when I have to deal with my ex. She has this way of making me feel like less of a person because I wouldn't and don't live up to her own life ambitions. I don't know why I let her get to me like that, but I do. I still find myself having difficulty telling her no, even though I can now ignore her much more easily. Case in point, this Saturday is my family's Christmas party and I asked to get my daughter early since I'm not supposed to have her until Sunday night. My ex wanted me to take her on Friday night because it's easier for her since she has to work on Saturday. Thing is, I have a date planned for Friday night, so I told her I couldn't do it. So she gives me a guilt trip about having to disappoint my daughter because she already told her I would. And this is after she also got onto me about keeping my daughter overnight when I had her for Thanksgiving. Obviously it's more about what's convenient for her, rather than what our daughter wants. And yet that episode last week bummed me out for days and made me miss a possible date last Saturday night because I just didn't feel like doing anything. I'll be glad when everything is done and legal and I can finally ignore her when she starts in on her bitching.