General Psychology Thread (for non-emergency and long-term issues)

[Quantum Vagina]

Read this article today, and thought maybe it would interest you guys

I already sent a link to my mother, for all the good it'll do. She'll just say, "WELL YOU'LL ALWAYS BE MY SON" and refuse to change anything about that.

[soguru]

That's way over my head. This is all pretty complicated.

[Quantum Vagina]

I don't really see how it's complicated. Not using someone's pronouns is a shitty thing to do. It takes minimal effort on your part, and makes a good difference in the other persons world.

[Quantum Vagina]

This thread might as well be named Cupcake and a few others when they're having problems...

So, I'm back living at my parents. I hate it. I don't want to be here. They don't want me here. But I don't really have anywhere else to go. When I got here, there weren't any hugs, or "Hey, haven't seen you in a while, how've you been?"'s. It was just "Oh, CODY'S here." Misgendered every time my mother mentioned me to another person, in front of me. They're not even giving me my own room, even though they have a guest room and I'm going to be here a while. I get to stay on the couch, because mother refuses to get ear plugs. I try to engage them. I try to talk to them, ask them how their days were, talk about things that happened with me that I thought were interesting. I get 1-2 word responses. Meanwhile, my brother gets here, they all talk to him a ton. He brings his girlfriend. My mother seemed legitimately MUCH more interested in her than she has been with me.

I expect this kind of behavior from them. I know they don't love me or care about me. But being here is making me feel like crying all the time. I'm kind of throwing myself into tumblr, which I've got mixed feelings about. I started it generally as a porn thing for myself after Bas left, where I could just post whatever I wanted, be a deviant, I don't know. I do enjoy the attention I get from it. It makes me feel attractive and desirable... but idk. It's probably not really that healthy... then again, it's fun and exciting. I don't know if I'm feeling weird about it because I'm having doubts, or if it's because I want doubts? There's super nothing wrong with doing that kind of stuff, and I do want to. I just don't know if it's for healthy reasons.

I don't really have the energy to do anything. Fallout 4 is being weird and I don't have the energy to troubleshoot it. I've been playing Pokemon on Showdown, but I lose a lot, and that's not good for my spirits, because I always know that it's my fault when I lose. Smoking has been happening more. I'm up to two packs a week now, which is more than I used to smoke, ever.I'm not too happy about it, but I just don't care. That's the big problem... I just don't care about anything. I'm just existing right now, and I don't care about anything.

[Quantum Vagina]

Went on my tumblr last night. Someone I knew recognized me. Strangely, I don't care. I'm 24 years old, I'm my own woman, what I do with my body is my business. I'm just surprised I got found, its unconnected to any accounts I use.

[anais.butterfly]

I met a man I am actually attracted to, and it's weird. Shit just got real.

[RVR II]

I met a man I am actually attracted to, and it's weird. Shit just got real.

So is he a Man's-Man, a Ladies-Man, a Man-Bear-Pig?

[Hung william]

For my birthday next week can I please troll this thread?

[Quantum Vagina]

For my birthday next week can I please troll this thread?

No.

[Pak-Man]

A second no.

Our words are backed by nuclear banhammers.

[Hung william]

"..my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives! You don't want the truth, because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall. You need me on that wall."

[Quantum Vagina]

Why am I still talking to Bas? I still don't know. I know that he keeps telling me how great of a girlfriend I was, and then saying reasons why he left.

[MSTJedi]

Why am I still talking to Bas? I still don't know. I know that he keeps telling me how great of a girlfriend I was, and then saying reasons why he left.

Oh, FFS. Why even say stuff like that? That's some serious mind fuckery right there.

I finally told my ex that I'd told my lawyers about her being pregnant and that they'd gotten an extension until a paternity test was done. Why? Because she asked. I'm tired of the lies and dishonesty. I was trying to come up with a way to tell her, but I didn't want to lie and say that I didn't know what was going on with my attorney. She asked and I bit the bullet and told her. The last thing she said in a text was "Thank you for telling me."

[Quantum Vagina]

Why am I still talking to Bas? I still don't know. I know that he keeps telling me how great of a girlfriend I was, and then saying reasons why he left.

Oh, FFS. Why even say stuff like that? That's some serious mind fuckery right there.

I finally told my ex that I'd told my lawyers about her being pregnant and that they'd gotten an extension until a paternity test was done. Why? Because she asked. I'm tired of the lies and dishonesty. I was trying to come up with a way to tell her, but I didn't want to lie and say that I didn't know what was going on with my attorney. She asked and I bit the bullet and told her. The last thing she said in a text was "Thank you for telling me."

Hopefully she's being civil... itd be really shitty of her to being plotting revenge after that.

Bas said that he's saying it to try and make me realize that I was a great girlfriend. Which makes me feel worse, because if I really was great, we'd still be together.

[LucasM]

Just because someone is a 'great girlfriend' doesn't necessarily mean that you are compatible together.  So the one doesn't necessarily correspond to the other.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time still.