Ah -- I see.
I was trying to explain in so few words that there were social conventions at the time that have since changed for westerners. Things that we find unreasonable now, were not always unreasonable to those people. The principle of what is good and bad has not changed, the practices around that idea have evolved.
God also wasn't narrow-sighted when it came to gay people versus straight people. King David was a womanizer and murderer (his son Solomon was a /wise/ murderer). But what made the difference wasn't that one cardinal sin was worse than the other. God didn't say, "Well, homosexuality is most evil of the evils, so there's no hope for those guys." He said, "Anyone that repents can come back to me whenever they want." Which is what David and Solomon, and a score of other patriarchs did.
As for whether or not something actually /is/ "sinful" or "wrong" that discussion is entirely different, and is subjective in debate where relativism goes against universality. A fun discussion, nonetheless!
In the end, my only plea is for people to be open not just to their own beliefs but to everyone's beliefs. I am a Christian, and wish not to be judged by the way any other Christian may or may not live their lives, but based solely and completely on how /I/ live /my/ life. We must remember that all people are flawed in many ways, and that we cannot accurately depict the greatness of this God we worship all the time -- so throw us a bone, man!
And again, I'm sorry if someone in your past threw a bible at your face and spat on you, cuz the only spitting Jeuss ever did was to cure someone's blindness -- never to scorn.