And don't give me that horseshit about monetary circumstances. Why is someone in such dire economic straits pondering whether to buy a 360 or a PS3? Why does this same person regularly post his latest Blu-Ray purchases that further fill up his massive collection. Why is this person planning to buy a Kindle? This money could and should be going to therapy and, if necessary, medication. The poverty argument, much like most of his arguments, has zero credibility.
I'm gonna point out as an addendum that the state of Delaware, where both he and I live (though thankfully on opposite ends of the state) has Medicaid and free mental health services. My best friend has numerous mental health issues stretching back to her childhood. She's also flat broke. Yet she still manages to keep it together and get the help she needs.
I don't understand exactly what we're expected to do in the name of kindness and decency. Many of us have tried to be understanding in the past, but he just ran roughshod over us. He has some freakout, gets flustered and leaves, and then the very next day or even often later the same day he comes right back like nothing ever happened. Over and over and over again, month after month, year after year.
I myself was majorly messed up in 2005 and 2006. I was needy, obsessive, overbearing, violently angry. It reached a point where I was screaming in anger at my three year old nephew for accidentally letting the dog out, and I ruined my brother's birthday party. At about the same time, I sent a series of horrible, hateful E-Mails to my best friend which pretty much destroyed our relationship for the next 4 years. I am truly blessed that she forgave me and our relationship is stronger now than ever.
But you know what the difference here is? I realized I was bothering people and I changed. Had I been more like Doctor Who, I would to this day be yelling at people, hurting them, being needy, clingy, and obsessive. I would make insincere and half-assed attempts to change, and when pressed, act all persecuted and blame everything on my condition.
The path Gunflyer suggests is one of appeasement and enabling behavior. It sends the message that this is okay. That when you feel angry you can just vent, and there are no consequences. It sends the message that you can emotionally blackmail people into being nice to you by playing on their sense of pity. "Oh, don't be mean to him. He has a mental illness." Meanwhile he's saying that you should be dragged out into the street and shot, or saying things about rich people and Republicans that are so vile that if you simply substituted the word "Jew" you would have something right out of a Nazi manifesto. But no, it's all okay, because he has a condition!
If he can stay away for 1 month, then come back, and apologize, and show us, I mean REALLY show us, that he's making an effort to change, I can be persuaded to be forgiving. But my supply of forgiveness and patience is very short right now.